Date: September 30th, 2019, Posted by mollie
Thank you for your birthday wishes, everyone. I had such a lovely day and was spoiled fabulously. Plus, I found time to do what I love – narrate one of my most popular books, Married by Christmas. Isn’t it wonderful when you love what you do? I feel so blessed.
I love being an author. It means I can do what I love forever! Thank you to you!
I am hoping and praying and persisting in the desire to finished creating and narrating the audiobook version of Married by Christmas. I never imagined recording would be so much fun. It’s hard work too. Did you know it can take a week or more to go from start to finish? I didn’t. But I sure do now!
In between narrating, I’ve been painting. I’m so happy to be donating two pieces to the Hospice who are having an art auction to raise funds. It was a thrill to see my flower painting, ‘blossom’ on the cover! I hope they make loads of money. It’s such an important charity to support.
I love writing stories that weave in the power of art to heal even the most wounded heart. If you’d like to learn more about the inspiration behind Married by Christmas, also released as The Italian Billionaire’s Christmas Bride, you’ll find it on my blog >>
The idea for this story was sparked when I read about a very successful Italian fashion-tycoon who said, ‘My biggest regret is that I gave my life to my job.’ It struck me as very, very sad.
I wondered why he had chosen to live his life this way. Despite all his wealth, all his mansions around the world, and all the ‘fans’ who adored him for the identity he had carefully cultivated, he loved no one and no one loved him back for who he truly was.
I’m so excited that Walnut Block Cottages are ordering copies of Love Me Forever for their quests to enjoy. The story was inspired by a true event…and when you read the book you will discover that I really did plant a little wish beneath the Walnut Tree that my sister would conceive again after the stillbirth of her son.
Thank you for your beautiful space of tranquility and for writing back to me:)
I’ve finished narrating the audiobook, and hope it is available everywhere soon.
Much love to you all
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Date: September 15th, 2019, Posted by mollie
While writing and researching Claimed by the Shiekh I have been thinking a lot about the subject of ‘toxic dads.’
In part, I was inspired by Danielle Steel’s story of her son’s battle with mental illness and his suicide when the pain of living in this world became too much. Danielle Steel writes in her memoir dedicated to her son, His Bright Light, how her son’s father was a cocaine addict and extremely toxic. So much so that her next husband officially adopted her son and she went to the court’s to ensure her son’s father could not contact him and continue to emotionally abuse him.
I think this is something many of us can relate too. I know I certainly can.
Recently I came across a passage in Awakening The Buddha Within: Tibetan Wisdom for the Western World. It really spoke to me. When I was working in the corporate world people used to call me Budh and Budha. I’m not sure why, but it probably had something to do with my love for the wisdom of this ancient form of spirituality.
Here is the passage, written by Lama Surya Das, said to be the most highly trained American Lama in the Tibetan tradition.
VOIDING IDIOT COMPASSION
A friend addicted to alcohol, drugs, gambling, or shopping pleads with you to loan him money — ‘just one last time’ – to feed his habit. Your child begs for permission to do something you know is potentially self-destructive or dangerous. Your mate Ìs consistently hurtful, abusive and unkind, yet you
forgive him or her. Your troubled relative or friend does something that you know is wrong and then convinces you to participate in a cover-up so that he or she will not have to face the consequences.
If you give in to such demands, you are practicing ‘idiot compassion.’
Trungpa Rinpoche coined this apt phrase to name this false, inverted brand of compassion.
We are being foolish when we congratulate ourselves on our compassionate behavior when in reality we are simply giving in and giving up too easily.
In all likelihood, we are being lazy, fearful, frightened, or even codependent.
This idiotic pseudo-compassion is counterproductive and can enable others to hurt themselves further.
Sometimes to say ‘no’ is far more affìrming and supportive than to just say ‘yes’ without reflection.
Wisdom is an essential component of compassion. The enlightened mind is often defìned as radiant wisdom endowed with warm love and compassion.
Wisdom helps us develop a mirror-like awareness that responds appropriately to what is truly needed in any and every situation.
Mirror-like wisdom requires the capacity to stand back and look at the reality of a situation before we jump in. Sometimes we give in because we are trying to manipulate a situation – perhaps we are afraid of rejection or we want to get something in return. We all need to be really clear about what it means to give with a pure and unselfish heart.
Often we do what we always do and give what is easiest for us to give instead of what is needed in each different situation.
A friend of mine says that one of the hardest lessons she has to learn as a parent is to be open to her children’s real needs beyond what she thinks they need.
I think of myself and other mother’s like me who are trying to protect their children. Recently my thoughts traveled to Princess Haya who fled her husband, the ruler of Dubai, Sheikh Mohammed Al Maktoum—fearing for her life and the wellbeing of her daughter and young son.
Princess Haya bint Hussein, commonly known as Princess Haya of Jordan, is the daughter of King Hussein of Jordan and his third wife Queen Alia, and the half-sister of King Abdullah II. She is a bright and beautiful and talented lady. She is a graduate of Oxford University in England. But even her education and her status as a royal princess could not protect her so long as she lived under her husband’s, and her children’s father’s rule. She had to leave and seek refuge in the West, specifically in London. She is also seeking protection from the UK Legal System to protect her children.
The BBC and many other international papers are covering this story, Princess Haya: Dubai ruler’s wife in UK ‘in fear of her life’
So what prompted her to flee her luxurious life in Dubai and why is she said to be “afraid for her life”?
“Sources close to her have said that Princess Haya had recently discovered disturbing facts behind the mysterious return to Dubai last year of Sheikha Latifa, one of the ruler’s daughters. She fled the UAE by sea with the help of a Frenchman but was intercepted by armed men off the coast of India and returned to Dubai,” reports the BBC.
The return, as friends and media report, was brutal. Sheikha Latifa also has a toxic dad. So toxic that she also lives in fear for her life and is imprisoned by him. Some sources fear she is dead.
Saint Dymphna is a Christian saint honoured in Catholic and Orthodox traditions and said to be the patron saint of the nervous, emotionally disturbed, mentally ill, and those who suffer neurological disorders – and, consequently, of psychologists, psychiatrists, and neurologists.
According to tradition, Dymphna lived in the 7th century and was the daughter of a pagan Irish king and his Christian wife. Dymphna was martyred as a teenager for her purity when she resisted the sexual advances of her father, the king.
St. Dymphna’s mother, who was quite beautiful, died when the child was only about 14. This so distressed King Damon that he sought to have his own daughter, who was Christian, take her place. (Talk about someone with a mental disorder!) Before this occurred, St. Dymphna had taken a vow of chastity, consecrating her virginity to Christ.
St. Dymphna then fled Ireland with Saint Gerebernus, her confessor, along with two others to escape the king. They landed in Belgium where they settled in the town of Gheel, but he caught up with them. Damon then killed Saint Gerebernus and St. Dymphna as well, when she refused to return to Ireland with him.
Miraculous cures of mental illness, and epilepsy as well, still occur at her shrine.
If you had or still have a toxic dad there is a lot of support out there. Many therapists specialize in helping people recover from traumatic childhoods. Even Google can be helpful, here’s are just a few self-empowerment articles:
Prayers to St. Dymphna have been of great help not just to the mentally ill but, indeed, to anyone experiencing anxieties in these troubled times!
For all the brave kids that have had to break up with their father’s my heart goes out to you. It’s not easy to accept that your dad doesn’t love you like a healthy father should. But take comfort, now you are free you can rebuild your life and make peace with your history.
You are free to start again—and find a love that lasts a lifetime. This may be with a new dad, or a loving partner or husband, or with a child, or even with your pet. It doesn’t really matter what shape this love takes, as long as it is built on a foundation of strong self-love and the deepest respect and compassion for yourself.
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Date: September 13th, 2019, Posted by mollie
Did you know you can die of a broken heart? Science has recently validated what we know to be true. Only yesterday, I received the email below from a friend whose daughter had been caught in New Zealand’s broken mental health system.
my news is a sad one my daughter past away sunday the 8/9/2019 at Bay of Island hospital.
There’s no more suffering and dealing with the system any more. It was more the stress that mental health did within a year, and my daughters heart couldn’t take any more.
Thank you for been there when i needed someone who understood me the journey was tough but I have placed my self in the hands of heavenly father who keeps me safe and heals my wellbeing.
I’ll address the brutality of the mental health system in a separate post and share with you my intimate knowledge of what’s wrong and how it can be fixed. Like Danielle Steel, who shared her personal experience (unsuccessfully) trying to save her son who suffered from mental illness, I too can relate and will narrate my own (so far successful) attempt to save not just my daughter’s life, but others like her.
But first, I want to spotlight the very real threat to our health that emotional and physical stress can inflict. Takotsubo cardiomyopathy, also known as broken-heart syndrome, occurs almost exclusively in women, medical researchers say.
Harvard Medical School reports that the condition is caused by a weakening of the left ventricle, often as a result of emotional or physical stress—such as the loss of a loved one or a sudden illness.
When things we love or value end we can feel as though life itself has died. We can feel depressed, despondent, stuck in a wasteland of ‘nothing matters anymore’.
Life is a never-ending series of beginnings and endings. Life has its births and deaths. We have full moons and no moons—or new moons. An ending is not a failure, but an opportunity for a new, and often better, beginning.
It’s okay and healthy to ‘keep it real’ and allow yourself to feel bad. If your boyfriend cheats on you or tells you he no longer feels ‘the love,’ or friends abandon you, how could you possibly feel happy about that? It’s normal to feel sorrow. It’s okay not to succumb to toxic positivity and think that life is only about having ‘good vibes’ and feeling continually inspired.
When painful things happen in our lives, this adversity may temporarily dull our joy, but remember that joy is energy. Like the sun, it will rise again and charge and enliven our lives.
Sometimes, hanging onto the light during periods of darkness means cutting yourself some slack and cultivating serenity. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference,” the Serenity Prayer encourages.
Ultimately, surviving life’s ups and downs involves being in touch with our Higher Power (God, The Divine, The Universe—whatever we believe in).
If we can practice radical acceptance, cede control, and hang onto the spirit of hope, every ending does bring a new and happier beginning. As sure as day follows night and spring follows winter, we can, and will, experience the joy of new and healthier jobs, careers, and relationships.
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